Looking through my childhood pictures for this website reminded me how much different my life is as an adult. Especially in regards to sex. Basically as a child ... I never had to worry about relationships or about having a fulfilling sex life. It was all about dolls, stuffed animals, swimming, roller skating, holidays, and school. Since there was no information given to me about how to have sex and stuff ... I learned from books, experimenting with boys ... but mostly ... from my friends. I remember one of my girlfriends one day talking about masturbation. At first I was uncomfortable with it ... but she was always so funny ... I couldn’t help but get into it. I guess I had never discussed it with anyone. (Ever in my life.!!!!!!!) She enjoyed it and was making some reference to “taking care of herself” or something I don’t remember exactly, but from her openness about masturbation, I was able to talk more freely about it. In high school I was lucky enough to have a job at a retail store that allowed me to hang out with my girl friends and talk about guys and sex all day. My friends and I would go out ... meet guys, date and begin to share stories about our experiences the next day ... every detail included. If someone was good, how big his penis was, what kind of forplay was involved ... the whole deal. It was routine. There were many hours at the store filled with “girl talk”. Being able to hear about their likes-dislikes-desires-and disappointments ... was truly special and informative.

The fact that my friends and I experienced several unfulfilled sexual encounters due to several factor including inexperience, lack of knowledge, and men who did not know how to please a woman ... made me aware that the “sexual scales” were rather uneven. I hated the fact that some of my friends were “faking it”. I didn't agree with it and I didn’t understand why. I remember one of my friends saying that they just wanted it to be over with without making a big deal about it. They seemed to believe that their satisfaction wasn’t all that important. (Gee ... I wonder where they got that idea??) Or perhaps women tend to want to protect a man’s ego. Well ... let me tell you something ... they don’t need protection ... men need reality... even if they don’t like to hear it ... and it’s our responsibility not to lie to them about it.

Anytime I felt someone was not being considerate of my satisfaction ... I let them know it. And I found that some of them really didn’t care at all. I remember telling this one guy to go home and get out of my bed with that attitude. I laugh about it now ...

From then on I realized it was up to be responsible for my sexual satisfaction. If I didn’t care ... why should my lover? Now ... I’m not discounting all the wonderful men who have actually cared about my satisfaction ... but just the fact that EVERY man was not concerned EVERY time ... concerns me.

I believe things would be different if there was a better sexual education program in this country. I don’t consider the classes I had in California’s public school system ... education. What a joke. Sex ed should start with children from a young age, up to the twenties, and beyond.

In fact ... our country has proven time and time again to be in opposition to “proper” sexual education. Thanks God for Planned Parenthood. Thank God for the internet where groups such as positive.org, sexuality.org, and prochioceforum.org.uk, can exist. There are far more resources now available ... but is it enough?

For some reason ... I believe some folks are in denial about the fact that children and teenagers ARE having sex. Perhaps they need to check out the teen pregnancies that happen every year.

More proof that our country has issues with sex and the education of...
Shall we recall what happened to Ex-Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders? She was not only an outspoken advocate of abortion, but gay friendly, and wanted to give children sex education which would include some information about masturbation. She believed it would help reduce the rate of teen preganency. Dr. Elders said that masturbation " is a part of human sexuality, and it's a part of something that perhaps should be taught." For that she was told to resign or she would be fired. My favorite quote from her ...

" [Masturbation] is an alternative. Now teenagers know that they're not going to go blind, they're not going to go crazy. Hair's not going to grow on their hands. We need to just stop lying to our children."

-Joycelyn Elders

If you are still not convinced that this is something you should be concerned about ... think about this ... do you want your children to learn about sex the same way you did?

How are you going to educate your child about sex? There are many subjects about sexuality. I do not have all the answers but I am going to ask questions, bring up subjects, and ask to hear other people’s ideas, experiences, and thoughts about sexuality and the education of sex and “lack thereof”. So ... please feel free to participate.

Write. Share your thoughts. Thanks.

And please ... play with your pussy everyday!